Up Close and Personal

Quotations, observations, and entertaining conversations with third-generation Tivol CEO, Cathy Tivol.

August 12th, 2010 by cathy

Me & Brooke

If I had my life to do-over, there are lots of things I’d do differently.  I’ve never been good at details, like marking down the dates on the back of pictures along with a short description of where the picture was taken.  I would have gone out to lunch with my friends more instead of working through lunch hours or grabbing something by myself.  I would have sent out RSVPs or thank-you notes immediately instead of waiting, and perhaps forgetting.  I should have hugged my kids more and told them what great jobs they did on school projects, tennis matches, swim meets.  I would have made it more a priority to sit down with the family for dinner rather than be scattered with commitments.  I would be better about staying in shape on a regular basis, rather than just give it lip service.

And yet, because I’m here writing this and you’re reading it, it’s not too late for any of us to change – IF it’s important enough and we make it a priority.


July 29th, 2010 by cathy

Hunter and Lydia

It was difficult getting used to 4 out of 5 of our children living outside Kansas City.  But we’re lucky to be able to see them often.  Sometimes business takes us to NYC and we can take advantage of seeing Danielle and Brooke then, but Chicago and Columbus, where Andrew and Derek live, are strictly destination cities for us.  But what is really tough is not being able to see my grand-daughter Lydia frequently.

I had no idea the joy that a grandchild would bring me.  This weekend Derek and Lydia are flying in for a couple of nights.  Not nearly enough time, but I’ll take it!  I’m picking them up from the airport, probably going to lunch at Winstead’s for a Tiny Tot, and then driving home.  Swimming is definitely on the agenda along with toy store shopping, story time at the book store, and seeing friends and family.  Lydie loves dancing to Lady Gaga (she’s 2 ½) so we’ll make a video of her dancing to one of the songs.  Can’t wait to get my hands on that little thing – oh, and of course, Derek!


June 30th, 2010 by cathy

Mom and Me

 

Mother’s Day May 9 was a struggle for me.  Although I was with family for breakfast and later for dinner, there was a black cloud that followed me around all day.  I lost my mother July 29, 2008 after her fight with breast cancer for over 15 years.  My husband Mark and I brought Mother back to Kansas City in June  to live because of a nasty fall she suffered.  I had talked to her for years after her husband died about coming back to Kansas city, and she finally said yes.  After a hospital stay at Menorah Medical Center in July, she was transferred by ambulance to Hospice House, where she died 3 days later.   Losing a parent is something most of us will experience, if we haven’t already.  Getting through the dark days of remembering are just part of the grieving process.


June 23rd, 2010 by cathy

Mark

After the Vegas jewelry show, Mark and I flew to Newark and then on to Paris for a family wedding.  We were lucky enough to use points for an upgrade to Business class on the way there, and what a difference wider seats and more legroom makes on an international flight!  (especially for Mark, who is 6’ 3)  We arrived early Sunday morning and were picked up at Charles DeGaulle by our sweet nephew, Julien.  He dropped us off at Pavilion de la Reine, our hotel in Place des Voges.  It was lovely and small with a wonderful staff.  We walked around the neighborhood for a few hours before our room became available – and had just enough time to shower and change for the 2:00 wedding.

What I loved most were the little children walking around during the wedding.  There was no commotion, no crying, just kids being kids and not sitting still – and no one was the least disturbed by it.  After the ceremony, there was a congratulatory receiving line to give the bride and groom and their families kisses.  And that night, an incredible party in an event space attached to a hotel.  The party began with 2 hours of cocktails and hors d’oeuvres.  There were long beautifully decorated tables with every kind of hors d’oeuvre imaginable – fried vegetable egg rolls and dumplings, lots of sushi, miniature paninis, duck foie gras, and on and on.  The band started about 9:30, and everyone walked to their assigned tables.  This band, about 12 pieces and 3 singers, was the best I’ve ever seen at an event.  The kids and adults would barely sit down to eat the scrumptious dinner.  And the band never stopped playing for four hours.  Popular American, French, and Tunisian songs kept the guests on the dance floor.  At 12:45, the dessert buffet opened, and I was in culinary heaven.  Huge slabs of mille feuilles,  ice cream with incredible chocolate and caramel sauces, bananas foster, chocolate fondue, fresh fruit, miniatures cakes and tarts – OMG.  At this point, my schedule was so off that I said to myself, who cares how full of food and caffeine I get, so I indulged to my heart’s content.  Finally at 2:30, we walked into our hotel room.  I don’t remember the last time I was out that late.  Truly, truly an unbelievable experience.  Mark’s family is remarkably warm and loving, and those feelings came abundantly through that evening.

We had decided to take 3 days and travel to Cannes, so we took the 5 hour train ride and arrived at the Carleton Hotel, now owned by the Intercontinental, about 1:00.  We checked into our room, explored the hotel, and walked across the street to enjoy the beach on lounge chairs provided by the hotel.  I was surprised that the nicer hotels charge for their chairs  ($20 each AFTER 3:00, and more before).  But, it is the French Riviera, I suppose.   That day, we split a $35 chicken club sandwich with avocado at our seats while the umbrellas shaded us.  I have to say, it was the best chicken sandwich I had ever had.  (and yes, I guess it should be for $35!).  The next 3 days we spent exploring Cannes and the incredible stores and restaurants.  The city is quite cosmopolitan, and Russians, Asians, Brits, Scandinavians, etc. were commonplace.  I was impressed at the staffs at the fine stores.  Unfailingly we were greeted with warmth and smiles and requests to help us.  Everyone at the stores spoke beautiful English and made us feel completely welcome. 

One night at dinner at La Cave, we struck up a conversation with 3 couples dining next to us.  They were from Manchester England.  We were shocked to hear that Sid said the only place he had ever been to in the US was Kansas City!  We had a lovely time with them, and they invited us to join them in an excursion the next day to St. Paul de Vence, about a 45 minute drive.  We mulled it over and told them the next day we would love to.  So we squeezed into a car and drove to this small town with incredible old architecture, wonderful little shops, and a well-known restaurant called La Colombe d’Or.  The restaurant was high on a hill, and we ate outside on a perfect day surrounded by original art and a remarkable view.  Mark and I both had the seabass – we ate fish continuously in Cannes – and it was divine.  We explored the city after lunch, and exchanged e-mails with our new friends before saying good-by at the hotel.

I think that as I’ve grown older, I am much more apt to be open to new experiences, including striking up conversations in restaurants with people.  I don’t know if it’s confidence or maturity, but I’m happy when a situation presents itself and we go with it.  Traveling has always been one of Mark’s and my greatest pleasures.  Hopefully in the years to come we’ll grab on to opportunities and continue to explore different cultures and make new friends.


June 2nd, 2010 by cathy

Our daughter Danielle launched a greeting card business at the Stationery Show at the Javits Center in New York.  She decided 6 months ago to start this business using her illustrations on printed postcards and greeting cards.  Andrew and Brooke, two of our children, joined Mark and me over the week-end to help Danielle set up the booth on Friday and Saturday, and man the booth Sunday, Monday, and Tuesday.  What a learning experience!  We figured out what we did right and wrong, what we should have done differently, and what kind of cards retail owners responded to.  Danielle made some nice sales, and some wonderful contacts.  She has her designs for sale on the retail site www.etsy.com, a very interesting concept.  And of course, we had some good meals.  One of my favorite restaurants in NYC is BLT Steak, and we had a fantastic meal there Friday.  The ahi tuna tartare appetizer with avocado is my number 1 app ever.  And we saw Kim Cattrall dining with her posse!  All in all a very fulfilling, very tiring long week-end.